February 28, 2016
I have been writing this blog for four years now. I started on February 26, 2012. I thought I had something to share. I felt, I learned so much about teaching and learning. After all, I made so many mistakes that it would be hard not to learn at least what was and what continues to be wrong in teaching. Feeling that I know something worth sharing was an excuse to write and to advertise some of the e-mails on a few e-mail lists.
But the main reason for writing was to beg others, those I don’t even know yet, to take upon themselves the challenge of helping Robert to navigate his life when neither my husband nor I are still there to do so. As my husband and I are getting older we think more and more about Robert’s future and feel that it might be rather harsh.
It is hard to understand Robert and know what he is able of doing. He listens to others but he seems not to. He talks to others but is not understood.
That carries the risk that the people in Robert’s future would put more and more restrains on him. Who will take him horseback riding? Who will ski with him? Who will go on a long, Cape Cod bike trail? Who will ask him to learn new skills for a new job? Who will continue to talk to him even when he doesn’t answer? Who will take him on a trip to another National Park or another city? Who will know what food would result in an onset of allergy or in an upset stomach with severe pains? Who will be attuned to him well enough to understand that he has a full range of emotions and longings?
In many of the posts written on this blog I tried to present the fuller picture of Robert. I longed for somebody to respond with healthy curiosity and deep empathy.
I have mostly failed.